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Something happened to me as an entrepreneur and woman that I never expected. Picture this: the first jerk actually apologized.
Let me tell you how it went down.
I posted a video on social media where I create content for women. I was wearing a top, and yes, you could see that I have breasts. Not like a provocative show, just… it was visible that I’m a woman. Another woman wouldn’t even notice.
But this gentleman who responded to the video (which had nothing to do with my body) wrote: “Wow, what a SEXY BOOBIES!” (decorated with some drooling emoji).
So clearly his brain worked in a straight line from eyes to… well, you get the picture.
I have no idea why people feel the need to comment things like this. It never occurred to me to write under David Beckham’s photo: “Oh, I’d love to lick your ear hair, daddy.” Because that’s Victoria’s job, not mine. You understand?
I thought about blocking him like I usually do, but I decided to get creative: “Thank you. You have a fantastic talent for spotting breastfeeding mothers.”
Many people liked my response, he deleted his comment and wrote an apology letter.
I thought, what the hell? Did the guy switch his brain into second gear? Did secondary shame kick in?
I was so surprised that I just wrote back that it was no big deal, have a nice day. Though I could have told him off too.
The Bigger Picture
But here’s what got me thinking. Apart from the fact that this was the first such case, I realized that this man probably has a mother, sister, or woman in his life whom he ultimately respects. He was just horny at the moment. Craving attention.
But when he ran it through his system and realized there’s actually milk in those “BOOBIES,” he understood it wasn’t meant for him.
The Reality Women Face
As women, we can find ourselves in damn uncomfortable situations. Harassment. Even when we don’t want it.
Am I to blame for something being visible? NO!
Am I to blame for being financially dependent on someones BOOBIE chasing son? YES!
There’s a big difference between the two.
Because the first one you can simply tell to go to hell, but with the second, they might hurt you, hit you, beat you, insult you… or maybe your boss gets inappropriate and it becomes damn uncomfortable to go to work!
Don’t let it be this way.
A Sobering Statistics
The other day I was listening to the news. Statistics: 95% of the deaths were men. Drowned, hit by cars, went to prison, drove recklessly, beaten to death.
The remaining 5% was one woman who was beaten to death by her partner and died from her injuries.
I don’t want to hurt men – I have three at home, two of whom will be someone’s husbands someday. I love them. Having a good man around the house is wonderful!
But you’re only the best version of yourself as a woman when you’re financially stable and don’t have to fear such situations.
The Connection Between Money and Safety
Financial independence isn’t just about having nice things or feeling secure about retirement. It’s about having options when life gets uncomfortable or dangerous.
When you depend on someone else 100% financially, you lose your power to leave bad situations. Whether it’s:
- An inappropriate boss who makes work unbearable
- A partner who becomes controlling or abusive
- A living situation that becomes unsafe
- Any relationship where someone uses money as a weapon
Financial independence gives you the power to walk away.
This isn’t about being materialistic or greedy. This is about survival and dignity. This is about having choices when you need them most.
Building Your Financial Safety Net
Your financial independence is your insurance policy against people who might try to take advantage of your vulnerability. It’s what allows you to:
Set boundaries and enforce them. When you’re not financially dependent, you can say no without fear of consequences.
Leave situations that don’t serve you. Whether it’s a toxic job, an unhealthy relationship, or any environment where you’re not respected.
Make decisions based on what’s right for you. Not based on what you can afford to lose or what someone else allows you to do.
Protect yourself and your family. Financial stability gives you resources to handle emergencies and unexpected situations.
It’s Not Just About the Money
The confidence that comes with financial independence changes how you move through the world. People can sense when someone has options, and they’re less likely to try to manipulate or take advantage of you.
When you know you can take care of yourself, you carry yourself differently. You speak up more readily. You don’t tolerate disrespect because you don’t have to.
This isn’t about becoming hard or defensive – it’s about becoming strong and self-assured. It’s about being able to be generous and kind from a position of strength rather than vulnerability.
Taking Action
Every woman deserves to feel safe and have options. That starts with taking control of your financial life, no matter where you’re starting from.
Whether you’re beginning with nothing or you’re already on your way, the goal is the same: build enough financial independence that you never have to stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable because you can’t afford to leave.
Your financial wellbeing isn’t selfish – it’s necessary. It’s one of the most important investments you can make in your safety, your dignity, and your future.
The best time to start building this foundation is now, before you need it. Because when uncomfortable situations arise, you want to already have your options in place.
